Once upon a dating app bio, “looking for a third” often raised eyebrows, or worse, red flags. But dating has changed, and so have the people exploring it. Open relationships, polycules, and radical honesty are shaping a new dating landscape, where couples team up to find connection beyond the traditional “you and me.” Enter the throuple pitch: the modern guide to presenting your duo to potential partners.
Dating as a Duo
A February 2023 YouGov poll found that 34% of U.S. adults say their ideal relationship isn’t strictly monogamous. By 2025, a Hims survey reported that 61% of Americans are open to non-monogamous arrangements. Love is expanding, and so are the ways people are pursuing it.
On apps like Taimi, couples are showing up together with honesty, humor, and creativity. Team dating isn’t about projecting perfection; it’s about letting your connection shine while inviting someone new to join the conversation.
Crafting Your Throuple Pitch
A strong couple profile works like an invitation: clear, warm, and rooted in transparency. It’s not just about attraction, it’s about chemistry, communication, and shared values. Here’s how to make your pitch:
- Be transparent. Spell out the type of connection you’re open to: romantic, sexual, emotional, or exploratory. This ensures everyone knows what they’re signing up for.
- Show your dynamic. Share what you love doing together and how you communicate. Let your authentic energy come through.
- Avoid “hunting.” Your third isn’t a missing puzzle piece, they’re a partner in co-creating the relationship.
- Honor autonomy. Treat your third as an equal member of your dynamic. They’re joining an already thriving connection, not fixing one.
Edward Reese, Gender & Sexuality Expert at Taimi, warns, “Bisexual and pansexual women are often targeted as easy entry points by straight couples experimenting. Ethical non-monogamy is about respect, not assumptions.”
Navigating DMs
Messaging as a duo doesn’t need to be awkward. The key? Authenticity:
- Start with curiosity, not a checklist.
- Compliment something specific from their bio or photos.
- Let both voices shine naturally.
- Lead with consent, it’s the ultimate turn-on.
Couples often find writing their bios together unexpectedly intimate, revealing how they want to show up in a shared connection.
Boundaries, Transparency, and Real Talk
The Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy’s 2024 survey found that 57% of non-monogamous people have been practicing for over three years. Their secret? Communication. Jealousy, insecurities, and boundaries are part of dating, poly or otherwise. The difference lies in normalizing those conversations.
Love, Multiplied
Whether you’re a curious couple or a confident third, modern dating is about expanding love, not rewriting it. No matter the label, love thrives on honesty, care, and a willingness to try something new. Your throuple story is yours to write, consent and creativity leading the way.
