Nestled in Southern California’s lush San Bernardino Mountains, Big Bear Lake offers an enchanting retreat just two to three hours from Los Angeles, San Diego, or Palm Springs. Perfect for LGBTQ couples – or friends seeking a scenic escape – this alpine destination blends fresh mountain air, shimmering lake views, and opportunities for romance and adventure, from winter slopes to summer hikes.
About Big Bear
Big Bear sits at just over 6,700 feet in elevation deep inside the San Bernardino National Forest and is easily accessible via the winding highways 330 and 18. While the fastest route is via the I‑10 or I‑15 to Highland, couples eager for photo-ready vistas and charming towns should take the scenic option through Crestline and Lake Arrowhead. Along the way, cozy cafés and vintage diners invite refreshment and pit stops. The drive one-way takes about two hours, depending on traffic and your route.
Where to Stay: Cozy Cabins or Chic Lodges?
Hotel Marina Riviera
Set right on the lake, this boutique property occupies the former Marina Resort—a beloved Viking-inspired lodge built in 1968. The building’s striking facade, crafted from raw, unvarnished timber, still carries the subtle scent of cedar, adding a nostalgic warmth that lingers in the mountain air.
Now under the care of Casetta, a hospitality group known for its charming and design-forward boutique hotels, the Marina Riviera has been thoughtfully updated to reflect a clean, modern aesthetic while honoring its midcentury roots. Expect cozy interiors with Scandinavian touches, natural textures, and lake-view lounging areas that invite you to slow down and soak in the scenery.
It’s an ideal pick for LGBTQ+ couples looking for a romantic lakeside retreat with a bit of boutique flair—perfect for morning coffee by the water or cocktails at sunset before heading into the Village for dinner and nightlife.
Lodge at Big Bear Lake – a Holiday Inn Resort
Central, friendly and host to the annual Romp festivals, this lodge places you within steps of the lake and Pine Knot Avenue’s nightlife. It includes an outdoor pool, billiards, gym, and lodge decor that balances rustic charm with casual comfort.
Robin Hood Resort
Perfect for couples who want easy lake access and optional indulgence. Room options vary from simple double rooms to suites with spa tubs, fireplaces, and private decks. Ideal for a romantic hideaway.
Noon Lodge at Mallard Bay
For a more curated boutique experience, 16 cabins combine mid-century charm with modern amenities: a pool, bocce court, shared fire pit, and minimal staffing. This property attracts those seeking an intimate escape in a southern-inspired lodge setting.
“Can we talk about how stunning the Hotel Marina Riviera is on the lakeside?” – Gayety Staff
Lagonita Lodge
Lakefront condos with kitchenettes, fireplaces, spacious decks, and hot tubs. Perfect for couples craving privacy and picturesque dinner views.
Best Western Big Bear Chateau
Up by Bear Mountain Ski Resort, offering basics done well: restaurant, heated pool, pine-shaded grounds, and mid-range convenience.
LGBTQ+ Events and Community Vibe
Big Bear is not a big-city gay mecca – but it shines in its own authentic way, especially during the annual Big Bear Romp. Running mid-August (August 15–18, 2024), Romp draws a welcoming crowd of bears, cubs, and queer-friendly attendees. Daily events include pool parties, themed dance nights like Leather & Gear, drag bingo brunch, speed dating, vendor markets, zip-line excursions, and lake cruises. A warm, inclusive vibe ensures couples can bring their whole selves, celebrate queer kinship, and enjoy Big Bear’s seasonal charms.
Places like Stillwells at the Lodge during Romp and Nottinghams at Robinhood often host events and foster queer-friendly hospitality. All year round, Big Bear Lake Brewing Company and 572 Social Kitchen & Lounge are inclusive go-to spots for dinner and drinks—572 hosts a shaded patio perfect for couples unwinding after outdoor excursions. For a playful date night, head to Big Bear Bowling Barn, which offers fun lanes, sports bar ambiance, and LGBTQ+ supportive vibes.
Tour De Big Bear – Ride with Pride is also an attraction many should attend. As AIDS/LifeCycle prepared for its final ride in 2025, a new chapter is beginning – one rooted in community, celebration, and pride. In the heart of Southern California’s most breathtaking alpine setting, Big Bear in August is becoming more than a scenic summer escape. It’s the starting point of a vibrant new LGBTQ+ tradition in the mountains. With events like Big Bear Romp and emerging grassroots gatherings, the weekend is evolving into a bold, inclusive celebration – marking the rise of a new Pride movement above the pines.
Summer Escapades: Hiking, Biking, and Boating Bliss
When the snow melts, Big Bear transforms into a lush green haven. Summer is the perfect time for couples to explore together—whether by trail, lake, or leisurely bike ride.
“There’s so much to do in this cute little area and everything is right around the corner.” – Gayety Staff
Kayak and Cruise:
Rent paddleboards, kayaks, or electric vintner boats from Big Bear Marina for an afternoon on the water. Looking for a more romantic vibe? Holcomb’s Marina offers scenic sunset lake cruises—perfect for proposals or just stealing a kiss under golden skies.
Hike With a View:
Castle Rock Trail is a local favorite—just under 2 miles round-trip, it rewards hikers with a rocky overlook and panoramic views of the lake. For more adventure, explore segments of the Pacific Crest Trail via Cougar Crest or Pine Knot trails, where forest solitude meets high-elevation serenity.
Cycle Your Way Around:
Casual riders will love the Alpine Pedal Path, a smooth lakeside trail great for hand-holding and photo ops. Road cyclists can take on the full 17-mile circuit around Big Bear Lake—challenging but worth it for the scenery alone.
Winter Wonderland: Ski, Sip, and Snuggle
From mid-November to early April, Big Bear Lake becomes a snow-covered sanctuary perfect for slope-side romance. Whether you’re shredding black diamonds or sipping cocoa in a cozy lodge, there’s something for everyone during the snow season.
Big Bear Mountain Resort features over 60 ski runs—most of them intermediate to expert—plus world-class terrain parks and a tubing hill for the snow angels in your group. Don’t miss night skiing for a magical, starlit experience.
Adventure add-ons:
Grab an Adventure Pass for seasonal activities or book a Lift & Lunch package, which combines skiing with scenic dining at Skyline Taphouse—offering panoramic lake views with your après-ski drinks. First-timers can take group lessons, while snowshoe hikes and board rentals add variety to your alpine agenda.
Local Attractions: Off-Hill Fun for All Ages (and Energy Levels)
Not hitting the slopes? No problem. Big Bear’s charm extends far beyond its ski trails. From animal encounters to arcade nights, here’s how to keep the fun going—no gear required.
- Big Bear Alpine Zoo: One of only two alpine zoos in the U.S., this high-elevation sanctuary specializes in rescuing and rehabbing mountain species. It’s open year-round and a surprisingly delightful detour.
- Big Bear Discovery Center: Explore the surrounding national forest through interactive exhibits, ranger-led walks, and educational fun perfect for nature nerds and tree huggers.
- Grizzly Ridge Tube Park: In winter, skip the chairlifts and hit the tubing hill—complete with a magic carpet to take you back up.
- Alpine Slide and Bobsledding at Magic Mountain: Open year-round, this retro ride lets you bobsled down a winding cement track. It’s kitschy, fun, and yes—adults scream louder than kids.
- The Bowling Barn: A cozy, rain-or-shine throwback with 16 lanes, an arcade, snacks, and a full bar. Perfect for low-key date nights or post-slope competition.
- Big Bear Speedway: Open April through October, this outdoor go-kart track lets you race your sweetheart at up to 30 mph. Loser buys drinks.
- Helicopter Tours: Fly high above the lake and mountains for a birds-eye view you won’t forget. Tours run year-round and are perfect for content creators (or proposals with altitude).
- Action Tours: Ready for the adventure of a lifetime? Try ziplining, segway, snowshoeing and more!
- Big Bear Jeep Experience: Big Bear Jeep Experience has the trip for you! Sightseeing tours for the timid, introduction to offroading for people ready to be exposed to the jeep trails
Spring to Fall: Seasonal Outdoor Playgrounds
Big Bear isn’t just a winter town. Once the snow melts, the area blooms into an outdoor playground, with warm weather adventures that are just as exhilarating—and far less chilly.
- Water Sports (April – October): With 23 miles of shoreline, Big Bear Lake is your aquatic playground. Kayak, paddleboard, sail, or cruise—rentals are easy to find, and sunscreen is a must.
- Fishing: Prefer a slower pace? Grab a pole, find a dock or book a guided charter, and cast your worries away.
- Golf at Bear Mountain (May – October): Tee off at 7,000 feet with spectacular views. This nine-hole course is perfect for a casual morning round before brunch.
- Camping & RVing: Whether you’re into tent camping or glamping it up, Big Bear’s campgrounds are surrounded by serene forest and starry skies.
- Mountain Biking at Snow Summit (June – October): Home to Southern California’s top lift-served bike park, Snow Summit offers trails for all levels—from gentle rides to gnarly descents.
Wildlife, Wilderness & Nature Centers
Visible year-round is the Big Bear Alpine Zoo, a rescue and rehabilitation facility with animals like foxes, owls, bobcats, wolves, and mountain lions. Interactive sessions happen daily at noon.
The Big Bear Discovery Center offers environmental programming and guided hikes, a resource for couples wanting to deepen their connection with nature. Trails around the center and rangers’ talks make for mindful afternoon date ideas.
Breakfast Recommendations: Fuel Up for Adventure
Lumberjack Cafe
Sourdough pancakes and waffles are the signature at this charming mountain diner, a nod to Big Bear’s Gold Rush roots. It’s one of the only places in the valley offering sourdough-based breakfast staples, and the portions are generous enough to share—ideal for fueling up before a morning hike or ski run.
Dank Donuts
The local donut scene hits a high note with Dank Donuts. Known for their indulgent cronuts (croissant-donut hybrids), bold coffee, and breakfast burritos that pack serious flavor, this is a morning staple. Gluten-free options abound, and their colorful patio is dog-friendly. Just don’t try to customize the burrito menu—they run a tight ship.
“A Cronut in a place like this? Sign a girl up right now.” – Gayety Staff
Teddy Bear Restaurant
A beloved Big Bear Lake staple since 1944, The Teddy Bear Restaurant serves up hearty, home-style comfort food with a side of small-town charm. Open for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, this cozy diner is known for its generous portions, friendly service, and legendary homemade pies. Whether you’re grabbing a post-hike bite or warming up after a day on the slopes, this is the kind of place that feels like coming home—if home always smelled like fresh biscuits and apple pie. Dine in or take it to go, but don’t skip dessert.
Sonora Cantina
Breakfast all day? Yes, please. Whether it’s chilaquiles at noon or a breakfast burrito at 4 p.m., Sonora delivers. Their spacious outdoor patio is dog-friendly, and the atmosphere is warm and welcoming—especially when owners Gabe and Maria are around. Known for their support of local LGBTQ causes, this is one of the most community-driven eateries in town.
Lunch Spots to Check Out: Midday Mountain Bites
Dank Donuts (Yes, Again Girl)
Don’t be surprised to find yourself back here at lunch. In addition to donuts, they serve standout sandwiches and salads that are easy to grab between activities. Bonus: cronuts are still available for dessert, and their laid-back patio remains a favorite for couples and their pups.
Get the Burger
One of Big Bear’s most beloved burger joints, Get the Burger offers towering protein-packed patties, jalapeño bottle caps, and fried cheese curds. It’s messy, indulgent, and perfect after a morning of outdoor exploration. Bonus points if you split a side of fries and a milkshake.
The Old German Deli
This tiny shop packs big Bavarian flavor. The smoked cheddar bratwurst and veal sausages are standouts, and the cozy dining area feels like a European après-ski hideaway. Grab a pretzel and a soda, and toast to lunchtime with a loud “prost.”
Dinner Guide: Where Romance Meets Rustic Charm
Fire Rock Burgers & Brews
This date-night gem serves gourmet burgers with creative toppings (think smoked gouda, arugula, and garlic aioli) alongside local craft beers and lake views. The ambiance is rustic yet stylish, and it’s a go-to for couples looking to relax after a long day of hiking or skiing.
Tropicali
Colorful, fun, and full of flavor, this tropical-themed eatery brings an island vibe to the mountains. Fresh poke bowls, jerk chicken, and fruity cocktails are perfect for a laid-back dinner. It’s one of Big Bear’s more eclectic date spots, with indoor and outdoor seating and a vibrant, welcoming crowd.
Masala Craft
The only Indo-Chinese fusion restaurant in town, Masala Craft is a bold and spicy option for adventurous eaters. Try the Gobi Manchurian, Chili Chicken, or Fish 65—dishes designed for sharing with your partner over rich conversation and warm naan.
“Big Bear, California is the place to fall in love once again with the friends and partners in your life.” – Gayety Staff
The Himalayan
Cozy and full of character, The Himalayan serves up flavorful Northern Indian and Nepalese dishes like palak paneer, chicken tikka masala, and handmade paratha. It’s a popular spot during Big Bear’s colder months and a perfect place to warm up after a long day outdoors.
Gaby’s Latin Flavors
A welcoming space with a pan-Latin menu that spans Bolivian, Mexican, and Peruvian favorites. Think chile rellenos, silpancho, and ceviche—dishes made for sharing and sampling. Their passion for community and bold flavors makes Gaby’s a favorite among locals and visitors alike.
The Pines Lakefront
If you’re looking for an elevated lakeside dinner, The Pines is hard to beat. With views of the water, a refined mountain lodge ambiance, and dishes like rack of lamb or elk, it’s made for special occasions – or just celebrating your love in style.
Dynasty Restaurant
For a quick, flavorful option that doesn’t sacrifice quality, Dynasty offers Cantonese-style Chinese cuisine with lightning-fast service. Run by a longtime local restaurateur from Hong Kong, the menu is full of satisfying stir-fries, noodle dishes, and classics like Mongolian beef and wonton soup. The ideal pick when you’re too tired to wait but still want something good.
Big Bear Lake invites LGBTQ+ couples to explore connection, nature, and authenticity together. Whether carving down snowy slopes, enjoying lakeside cocktails, or attending mountain drag bingo, Big Bear serves as a landscape for both playful joy and quiet reflection. With welcoming spaces, vibrant events, and romantic landscapes, this mountain haven proves love—and pride—flourishes wherever you let it.
